Weekends usually meant for us to spend time with friends, families and love ones. It is a normal routine for us I am sure. Few of us will grumble for not having enough time during weekend to do everything they have planned and there will be intervened by others or situation during the two days. This weekend although less hectic for me but the activities was fun with my nephew and nieces. I love to play the caring and doting aunty once in a while. Catching up my breath by mid day Sunday, reading few days’ newspaper in a row not forgetting the gossip column of local artist I smile to myself. What are we getting into now? Bringing Hollywood into the scene or being an artist we shouldn’t be afraid of critics about our personalities and public perception.
Observing the trend and scenarios of the local scene, the word “minta maaf” has been used unethically by our artist lately. Another favourite terms been used is “nilai kerjaya saya bukan peribadi saya” or when been interviewed by media their common saying goes “jangan terlalu pertikaikan soal peribadi, tumpukan kepada kerjaya”. Today of all days I’ve been reading few sensation gossip columns and the hit of the week was dress worn by Nabila Huda at the Anugerah Blockbuster and picture of Erin Malik in her instagram. The two merely example of all I’ve heard about our local artist. Mentioning names is bad but I have no alternative since I need to give example. About two weeks ago the end of relationship of Yuna and Qi together with Remy and Tiz sizzles for days. All the slandering words, comments, debating between the haters and fanatic fans were heard and read. After all the drama, it does quieten down now and I do sincerely hope all of them have move on and wish them success in their life and career.
I catch up few minutes of my quiet hours; suddenly my eyes catch a book on the rack about personality. What a co-incidence, since a friend call yesterday and we were actually gossiping a bit about what’s going on in the local entertainment industry. We were exchanging notes about our local talent which a small number of them full of negative gossip even though their acting skills or singing is phenomenal. Another small group belongs to not so amazingly with talent but their faces often on the screen due to their clean image or personality. As people say, whatever they do behind the wall or curtain is their life but when they are in public they portray a good image and being love by all with their smiles and good vibes. Negative gossip about them hardly heard. I am sure nobody knows how they lead their lives but this group of celebrities are careful with their personal lives in order to remain long in the industry. I think we must accept the truth behind this “gossip sells” especially the negatives and we will attracted to read it every time. We are not being honest with ourselves if we denied this fact. As a public figure particularly celebrities and more over in Malaysia which the numbers are small, each steps, each movement, each behaviour, etc being watched and scrutinize by many. The hungry gossip column reporter just waiting for their opportune time to disclosed anything they know and knew. Whenever gossip hits the column the celebrities will come forward to give their statements as defending themselves which after long many of their fans getting bored with all the excuses.
I am sure as a general public we need to have a good personality too for us to succeed. It has been life motto for long and is very important characteristic. Many motivation speakers will emphasize on this one word “PERSONALITY’. Personality can be build by learning few skills in our daily life. This is not because of having money or position. This is actually lacking in our society and when someone or group trying to deal with this most of us will be in denial because we love to say “this is my life so I will lead my way and you lead yours”.
Among quotes from an actress I found this two from Mae West what is personality is all about. Personality is the glitter that sends your little gleam across the footlights and the orchestra pit into that big black space where the audience is.
Personality is the most important thing to an actress’s success.
Mae Jane West born (August 17, 1893 – November 22, 1980),known as Mae West, was an American actress, playwright, screenwriter and sex symbol whose entertainment career spanned for seven decades. If she laid emphasis on personality I am sure she feels responsible towards it as an actress and she survived in the industry. Don’t you think she’s right on personality?
As far as personality goes it is not plastic, unless we want to look at it as plastic faces and act. Through my reading about personalities and observation, it is a skill for us to learn and adapt. It is how we bring our image to another person. In another word it is first impression. People more often than not; judge another human being on their first meeting. According to few the first 10 minutes of introduction is a good way to impress the other party about ourselves. We usually found this or need this during job interviews. The body language while talking to people or the interviewer, the eye contact, face expression, confident level, dressing, sitting and standing position and many more being observed and being the ticket for us to secure the job and position. Do you agree?
According to Mae West “personality is the most important thing to an actress success” and her career spanned in the industry for seven decades is magnificent. During my working years, attending few motivational talks the speaker always emphasis on following the footsteps of successful people and never afraid of failure. This is all about cause and effect because being successful is not easy. We must strive to succeed. Succeed comes with a package of working hard, listen to advice, be humble, learn and keep on learning, don’t be hard-headed and many more good qualities in us needed for success. Will it be any different from what Mae West saying to become an artist? As I see it, all of this is cycle of life. I must agree we are not able to have all but we are able to have the best. The decision is ours and the path is wide open for us to choose and leave a trail.
The negative values in human being are many too. All of us have negative elements which like a build-in mechanism in our body. Since it comes to us in a package during birth and many more input during our grown up years, we will without doubt needed time to overcome and replace the negatives with positives. While in this process we need to adjust ourselves with many things and willing to change progressively. Being a good listener to advices does not mean we must follow each word without thinking. This is a dangerous characteristic if we did not use our mind and thinking capability. Changes are not following blindly and this is part of personality in the making too.
Many of us or all of us have this word in ourselves JEALOUSY. The different of jealousy is what makes us different from others. How we transformed jealousy into success with great personality will bring us to the top. Personality also covered by our religion. Wherever we are or what our believe PERSONALITY is a must for us to adhere. All religion teaches us about cleanliness, punctual, respect ourselves, respect the adults and be a good human being in the society. It is also included our dressing to an event or function. As we are in Malaysia and almost ¾ of the population are Muslim we are not able to run away with rules and regulation in dressing. Few design of evening gown or cocktail dress might trigger the public sensitivity. Over bearing and over revealing will certainly cause the talk of the town for weeks. The designer and the person who wore the dresses might feel it appropriate for the occasion without thinking the fuzz and buzz of others. It is again wrong to ask the public not to judge because the person concerned does not even think about the consequences before wearing them. If the wearer is a public figure and known celebrities, she will not able to stop anyone from talking and commenting. This is because they did not respect themselves but expected to be respected.
In sense of dressing I must say not many understand the description between sexy, revealing, smart casual, classy and clown. Colours are component of our personality as well. Let’s take a look at black. What people in general associates black with the human nature. I am sure nothing is wrong with black as black is formal but if we keep on wearing black even on our festive day, the wearer must be so insecure human being as the Chinese feng shui says it is bad luck.
The interpretation of black in colour is “Black is authoritative and powerful; because black can evoke strong emotions, too much can be overwhelming. Black represents a lack of colour, the primordial void, emptiness. It is a classic colour for clothing, possibly because it makes the wearer appear thinner and more sophisticated”. Black as well have an effect on us physically. In general black will make someone inconspicuous, emptiness and mysterious by evoking a sense of potential and possibility. In general I assume all this as lack of confident and the wearer always hiding behind the colour (details of other colours please do not hesitate to browse the attached website).
If we focus on colours and personality it will definitely gives us a complete range why not many of us wanting to focus on it. Let me bring us back to the issue of celebrities in our local industry; at times I do feel they rather let people critics instead of give a time to observed themselves and make them appreciate their body and mind through sense of dressing and behaviour. Social etiquette is much lacking in our local entertainment industry. Through gossip I’ve learned our celebrities do not truly know to differentiate between excess and less; which less is more. Each time gossip hits the media it is always party, revealing dress, drunk, smoking, cats and dogs fight via social media which each group can be minimise and avoided. I am not saying they are not allowed to attend parties and if they think it is alright to consume the liquor, why not? But again, there is limit to everything. Even in Hollywood we will notice the actors and actress with problems will not be cast in many projects and their problems or issues is more highlighted and not their acting skills and career. It is the same all over and why can’t we take the good and left the bad?
Is it so difficult to cultivate good personalities in us? I always ask this question to my junior colleagues. Another perception of personalities is expensive clothes, designer’s item and must have tons of money. That is bimbo definition of personalities, my dear ladies.
Again and again our local artist making the same mistakes and I sincerely feel it is time for all involves attending etiquette school on how to talk, how to dress, how to stay away from negatives issues and many more. As an artist and celebrities, actors and actresses it is even essential to know your designers for clothing. Learn and acquire skills of knowing “less is more”.
I always admire Aisyawarya Rai, Kareen Kapoor, Pretty Zinta and many more Bollywood actress in their saree for award presentation. Without doubt the saree has gone through many changes but they still adorn themselves in this traditional costume. They really look sexy with the vibrant colours against their skin. Simple and elegant with moderate revealing and furthermore it is their traditional costume. Can we beat it?
Another favourite foreign actress of mine is Zhang Xi Yi who acted in Memoirs of a Geisha (her complete biography and profile: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhang_Ziyi) She started studying dancing at the tender age of 8 and later she joined Beijing Dance Academy by her parents suggestion at the age of 11. I do believe Zhang build her personalities from her dance classes at early age. I am sure Zhang faced with ups and downs of the entertainment world but with determination plus strong personalities and good rapport she is much sought after actress in this era.
So, what takes us to build a personality? Is it the family name we carry? Is it wealth? Is it paper qualification with degree, masters and master degree? Is it just purely humble and truthful to our own self? Without a doubt the personal attribute to a good personality comes with good heart, true, honest and sincere and leading life without any prejudice. As this old saying goes…”the perfect beauty comes from the heart”.
A thought by : Sanaa 14/10/12